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[AONC] Just Because Other People Do It, Why Should You?

2016-12-02 09:43:24

The Art of Non-Conformity


Thanks again for joining the revolution! When you signed up on my website a few days ago, I made a commitment to send you valuable messages—letters that will help you make better decisions.

With that in mind, I have a story for you, complete with a twist at the end. Let me know what you think...

Once Upon a Time, There Was a Bridge

When you were a kid and wanted to do something your parents or teachers didn’t like, you may have heard the question, “If everyone else jumped off a bridge, would you?”

The idea is that it’s not good to do something stupid, even if everyone else does it. The logic is think for yourself instead of following the crowd.

It’s not bad advice, even if it’s sometimes used to exert control more than to support independent thinking.

Why Jump off the Bridge Just Because Everyone Else Is?

But then, you grow up and suddenly the tables are turned. People start expecting you to behave exactly as they do. If you don’t conform to their expectations, some of them get confused or even irritated.

It’s almost as if they are asking: “Hey, everyone else is jumping off the bridge. Why aren’t you?”

The irony of this is lost on everyone who is busy lining up to take the leap. The logic shifts from independent thinking to groupthink. If everyone else is doing it, it must be right.

I began writing The Art of Non-Conformity five years ago to help bring the childhood message up to adulthood application. Ignore those people jumping off the bridge. Make your own decisions. Live your own life.

Asking why? to everything like a three-year-old is helpful in making sure you don’t jump off the bridge. Whenever confronted by a request or obligation, ask the question:

“Why should I do that?”

When the answer comes back, “Just because,” or “Because that’s what everyone does,” you know you’re looking over the bridge again. In any given day, you’ll confront this issue at least once. This fact is somewhat unavoidable. Whether you jump or not, however, is up to you.

The counsel you received at a young age was correct, even if the people giving it to you weren’t that great at following it themselves.

Why jump off the bridge just because other people do?

Several years ago, I told this story in 63 cities during my first book tour. The message still holds: think for yourself! Live for your own values.
You don't have to jump off someone else's bridge. You have the choice, the ability, and the power to decide for yourself.
Are you doing that? If so, you're not alone. There are others just like you who are stepping back from the bridge, then turning around and charting their own path.

Yours in the revolution,

P.S. In the next few messages I'll tell you more about how to apply this lesson in your life. If you don't want to settle, if you're tired of compromising—pay attention. You'll learn how to travel hack your way around the world, start a business for $100, and generally live life on your own terms. It's going to be great!

Thanks again, . I hope you enjoyed this message. The best is yet to come.