You know what happens when you hit the big 3-2? I dunno but it seems like everyone starts really complaining about getting old.
One problem with being ambitious is that you always feel like you're in a race against time - like you have to make a certain amount of money by age X or accomplish something by age X.
Have you ever seen someone else super successful and the first thing you wanna know is "how old is this person?"
If they're older than you then you think, "ooh cool I have time to catch up". But If they're younger than you, then you feel a little demoralized. It feels like you're working to your full potential.
That's a harmful way of thinking (this is coming from someone who strugged with it for years)
Remember that someone else's success is NOT your failure. We're all on our own timelines and you should only be comparing yourself with yourself.
Focus on progress, not perfection. As long as you're moving towards your goals each day, then you're a success.
It's been an interesting year for me. I rarely talk about my personal life but there has been a lot of changes.
I was in a relationship for about 4 years...and we broke up a few months ago.
It was a pretty serious relationship. Like...I had the engagement ring picked out, and the proposal planned.
Then I ended things. I couldn't go through with it.
I believe who you choose to marry is one of the two most important decisions of your life (your career is the other one).
I'm not ready for that next step, and I wasn't 100% sure she was the one. I've seen too many of my friends get pressured into marriage by their families or their significant others.
Most of the time they end up getting divorced a few years later. Don't let anyone pressure you into anything. And sometimes, you have to give up the good for the great.
Not really dating or looking. Your boy Ngo is fine. Just taking all this raw energy and putting it into my work.
My circle of friends looks a LOT different too.
I'm not friends anymore with some of the people I was closest with last year.
I think of it like this...You change. They change. And sometimes you guys just aren't compatible anymore being homies.
"I ain't got no issues, I'm just doin' my thing. Hope you're doin' your thing too" - Kanye
I'm talking a lot about people to you guys because life is about the relationships you have in your life.
You'll realize this the older you get, and that you always have a choice in who you choose to surround yourself with.
The next few years of my life are going to be pretty pivotal and I can't slack off with the move to NYC.
What's in the plans?
Growth. Getting bigger. Moving forward.
Grow the existing companies. Hire rockstars, and take the systems next level. Planning for company #3. I wanna start investing / advising more. Stop working so damn hard.
I wanna do more charity work and give back more. I care about getting kids to read more, suicide prevention, and something with Vietnam. So if I do a fundraiser next year, consider donating :-).
On my personal side I really love design. Wanna get my BJJ blue belt next year and do more Yoga. I wanna start reading more books that aren't business related (oh so tough).
And of course I gotta keep learning. I'm in the never ending cycle of
"Taking action -> failing -> learning -> adapting -> winning -> sharing knowledge with you"
If you're going to be in Bangkok this Sunday, come celebrate my birthday with me. Alright guys don't buy me any shots. I have to speak on Monday.